son intend to marry her mother

I want to marry My Mother - true story from Zimbabwe

Coastal NEWS –TERSEER ADAMU ( Review) 2013-06-28

 

A Zimbabwean woman and her son have done the unthinkable – they have fallen in love with one another. And now they want to marry since the mom, Betty Mbereko from Mwenezi in Masvingo, is six months pregnant and expecting her son’s child.

Mbereko (40), who was widowed 12 years ago, has been cohabiting with her first child, Farai Mbereko (23).

She confirms that she is six months pregnant and that she has decided it is better to “marry” her son because she does not want to marry her late husband’s young brothers, whom she says are coveting her.

Betty stunned a village court last week when she said the affair with her son had begun three years earlier.

She said after spending a lot of money sending Farai to school following the death of her husband, she felt she had a right to his money and no other woman was entitled to it.

“Look, I strove alone to send my son to school and no one helped me. Now you see that my son is working and you accuse me of doing something wrong. “Let me enjoy the products of my sweat,” she told the village court.

Farai said he was more than prepared to marry his mother and would pay off the ilobola balance his father had left unpaid to his grandparents.

“I know my father died before he finished paying the bride price and I am prepared to pay it off,” he said.

“It is better to publicise what is happening because people should know that I am the one who made my mother pregnant. Otherwise they will accuse her of promiscuity.”

But local headman Nathan Muputirwa says: “We cannot allow this to happen in our village, mashura chaiwo aya, (This is a bad omen indeed). In the past they would have to be killed but today we cannot do it because we are afraid of the police.” He warned them to break off their marriage or leave his village.

They chose the latter and have left the village for an unknown destination

new couple in town

112-Year-Old Somali Man Weds Teen

 Coastal NEWS – TERSEER ADAMU (Review) 2013-06-28

Hundreds of people have attended a wedding in central Somalia between a man who says he is 112 years old, and his teenage wife.

Ahmed Muhamed Dore - who already has 13 children by five wives - said he would like to have more with his

new wife, Safia Abdulleh, who is 17 years old.

"Today

God helped me realise my dream," Mr Dore said, after the wedding in the region of Galguduud.

The bride's family said she was "happy with her new husband".

Mr Dore said he and his bride - who is young enough to be his great-great-grand-daughter - were from the same village in Somalia and that he had waited for her to grow up to propose.

"I didn't force her, but used my experience to convince her of my love; and then we agreed to marry," the groom said.

Goat-skin documents

The BBC's Mohammed Olad Hassan in Mogadishu says the marriage, in the town of Guriceel, is being described by Somali historians as the first of its kind in the Horn of Africa nation for more than a century.

Our reporter says reaction to news of the marriage has been mixed.

Some people said while it was allowed under Islamic law, they were concerned about the age gap, but others were happy that age was not a barrier to love.

Mr Dore told the BBC he was born in Dhusamareeb in central Somalia in 1897 - and has a traditional birth certificate, written on goat skin by his father.

Our correspondent says he has an interesting history - in 1941 he joined the British colonial forces as a soldier for 10 years and then served as a police officer after Somalia won independence in 1960.

Altogether, Mr Dore has 114 children and grandchildren. His oldest son is 80 years old and three of his wives have died.

He says he hopes his new bride will give him more children.

"It is a blessing to have someone you love to take care of you," he said

fibroids & Infertility

Fibroids and infertility: Is there a relationship?

 Terseer Adamu (Review) 27/06/2031

Fibroids are very common. Up to 40 per cent of women over 35 years of age have fibroids. Although many of these women will have no symptoms at all, experts say that depending on the number, size and location of the fibroids, this can cause a woman to have trouble achieving successful pregnancy, reports Sade Oguntola.

Three years after giving birth to her son, Hannah began to experience abdominal pain and heavier bleeding with each monthly period. At the hospital, the medical doctor performed a routine pelvic examination and discovered she had a fibroid.

As time passed, Hannah’s menstrual flow became so heavy she changes her sanitary towel every other hour. When menstruating, she dare not leave her home for fear of a blood gush that might leave her dress strain badly. Within nine months, she was anaemic and in desperate need of medical care to put a stop to the problem.

Fibroids are overgrowths of tissue in the uterus or womb. They grow from the muscle that constitute the wall of the womb and are not due to cancer. Up to 40 per cent of women over 35 years of age have fibroids, but it can develop at any age.

In some women, fibroids cause few symptoms and may go unnoticed. In others, they can cause symptoms so severe, that their entire quality of life is compromised.  

Generally, its symptoms include heavy and prolonged menstrual periods, bleeding in between periods, abdominal and lower back pain, frequent urination, constipation and, in rare cases, miscarriage and infertility.

Majority of women who have fibroids will get pregnant with no problem, and the majority of women who have fibroids will see the pregnancy through with no problems. However the diagnosis of fibroids may in itself be a “wake up” call to the possibility such women experiencing difficulty getting pregnant and problems during pregnancy.

There are several ways in which fibroids may affect pregnancy. According to Professor Oladapo Ashiru, Medical Director, Medical Art Centre, Maryland, Lagos, “when the fibroid is inducted in the muscle of the uterus (womb), not inside the womb where the baby is supposed to develop and it is less than 4 cm, you can have a baby within.

“But once the fibroid is above 4cm and it is inside the womb (cavity), you have to remove it before the woman can conceive. This is because the fibroid is projecting inside the womb cavity.”

Although a woman may have multiple fibroid growths, he stated that once these were on the wall of the womb and not inside the womb, a woman can conceive.

But the sizes of the fibroids and their precise location within the womb are likely to be important factors in determining whether or not the fibroids will affect the pregnancy, labour and delivery.

The presence of fibroid can also increase the risk of pregnancy complications, which includes bleeding in early pregnancy, abnormal position of the baby, some challenges in labour, especially where the fibroid is blocking the lower part of the womb. It has also been associated with increased risk of operative delivery and increased bleeding after delivery.

Professor Ashiru who linked the growth of fibroid to excessive consumption of oestrogen substances such as Vitamin E, royal jelly and some oily foods, said “consumption of excess fats eaten can be converted into oestrogen, which helps fibroid grow.”

The expert, however, assured that women with fibroid can be helped if they seek treatment from qualified health practitioners, adding that because often women have no symptom of fibroids, many women with fibroids do not know they have them.

Aside the fibroid contributing to cases of infertility, he stated that multiple fibroid could also result in difficulty having a bowel movement or pain with bowel movements. When fibroids press against the rectum, this could result in difficulty having a bowel movement or pain with bowel movements.